How EFT Has Helped Me And How It Can Help You

"If it's hysterical, it's historical"

How many times have you exploded over something insignificant, bursting into tears and frustration, and others looked at you as if you were crazy? You felt powerless, hopeless, and disappointed? Until eventually, you just shut down. And you can't even remember the last time you truly laughed or cried...

I have been there. I have lived that. I have healed many of the wounds from my childhood that I never thought I would be able to do.

I have tried yoga, meditation, acupuncture, homeopathy and all the fancy apps. They only helped ease some symptoms, such as anxiety, worry, and stress, temporarily. But they kept coming back again and again. Symptoms are the body's and subconscious mind's way to tell us that there's an issue that has deeper roots. And I needed to get to the bottom of my core issues to stop the symptoms.

I was supposed to feel grounded, but that expression was as unknown to me as the calculation of go/no-go reentry point for Friendship 7 😆. What does it even mean to feel grounded? 🤔

Below are some examples of how the mind-body-emotion approach I use in my sessions has helped me.

Maybe this is something you relate to as well?

Helped me reduce and eliminate negative emotions and memories associated with my past:

rape,
sexual harassment,
bullying - I can encounter someone who bullied me without feeling anger, fear, stress, sweaty hands, endlessly replaying possible future encounters in my mind, what I would say and how I would behave,
toxic relationships - my feelings of blame, pleasing others, what happened during those relationships and why,
my childhood: my unmet needs of love and safety, being unseen and unaccepted; being neglected, ignored and disregarded, emotionally manipulated, and physically abused.

It helped me to access emotions I didn't even know I was carrying (at some point in my life, anger anger was hidden beneath disappointment, sadness beneath resignation, and eventually even numbness.)

Setting boundaries, standing up for myself, saying “No” to others without feeling guilty and running back to apologise

I learned to listen to my gut feeling. Something many children of parents with BPD learn to stop doing at a very young age.

And that's what it means to be grounded.

I cry, I feel anger and sadness during the sessions (tapping), but at the end of the tapping I am calm vs the traditional talk therapy that I often left feeling overwhelmed and emotionally activated, sometimes shaking, relieving and re-experiencing all the stress and anxiety from the past.

I learned to understand my emotions -- they are there to tell me something about a person, situation, myself

I learned that my needs are important to me. I am important to me. My emotions and feelings are important to me. I have the right to be tired, not to put other people's needs before my own, take time off and not be responsible for other people's emotional state, e.g. inability to accept a “no”.

I learned to listen to my body - any tension, any contraction, any shakiness tells me something about myself and the situation I am in.

I can stay and exist in the same room with someone who reminds me of my borderline mum and her behaviour. I remain calm, unaffected. I don't take the behaviour of the other person personally, and my body no longer responds with: stress, anxiety, overthinking, panicking, the need to run away, or even suicidal thoughts. Read more.

I learned how to deal with stressful situations on my own, e.g., conflicts and confrontations, talking to emotionally unstable people, neutralising my triggers and red buttons that were created in my childhood.

I stopped having physical reactions like: digestive problems, my abdominal shaking like crazy in trauma-similar situation, recurring wounds on one of my fingers healed, pain in the low back, pain in the neck, shoulder pain, pain in my right piriformis muscle, itchiness, and dandruff of my scalp.

I learned how to be present in a situation, instead of having a “system freeze”, and then wondering what was said, why I didn't react right away.

I learned how I think, feel, and behave when childhood wounds are triggered. I become aware of what patterns of behaviours I repeat in that situation, and can actually decide if I want to change it.

I am able to analyse why I have these “negative” emotions, tap on them and come to the core issue of what triggers them. So that I can let them go. So that I can deactivate the “red buttons” that were installed by my family and the negative environment, that I have been carrying with me since my childhood. And this is the most important skill I have learned with EFT.

I would love you to have the chance to heal your emotional wounds and body, and to gain the knowledge how to deal with any possible shit that might hit the fan in the future 🥷.

Is this something you'd like to achieve?

The button below will take you to the page, where I explain how the process and sessions look like.

The process in 4 steps