Are we a fit?
Sometimes life throws some real shit at us, leaving us with emotional wounds. We might feel powerless and hopeless. We might think we are not worthy of love or deserve nothing better... We might feel disappointed. We judge ourselves for how we reacted when difficult things happened to us. We feel scared and ashamed, so we disconnect from our emotions and our bodies. We become numb.
We stop loving ourselves.
We bury our emotions, and as Hilary Jacobs Hendel says in her book It's not always depression, "When you bury emotions, you develop symptoms." Those symptoms may include: stress, frustration, anxiety, digestive issues, pain, phobias, negative beliefs about ourselves, we suffer from insomnia, exhaustion, low energy...
Your Experience
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you’ve tried traditional therapy and found it to be unsuccessful, unhelpful,
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you feel that the therapists you’ve met with did not make you feel seen, heard, safe, or connected with you, and maybe even lacked the capacity to walk with you, through your past and present issues and experiences,
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you feel it has wasted your time, emotional commitment, and money,
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you’ve tried various methods but haven’t found “the thing” that works for you, to learn how to deal with overwhelming emotional and physical reactions.
Your heart
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you believe in love,
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you believe that your body, mind, and emotions are connected and influence each other,
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you believe you can heal and
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you want to heal,
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you want to receive help,
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you are willing to show commitment to tap between sessions.
Your interests
You don't have to relate to all of these. They're simply examples of things many of my clients are interested in:
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you might be interested in energy medicine such as chakras, acupuncture, Reiki, meridians, yoga, meditation, etc, or you’re at least open-minded to it,
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you believe there's more to life than what the material world offers,
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you love animals and care about their well-being,
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you enjoy listening to Alan Watts or others like him, reading books like “The untethered soul” by Michael A. Singer or “The myth of normal” by Gabor Maté, or similar. If not -- give it a try 😉,
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you care about your health and emotions.
Your thoughts
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you’ve tried yoga, meditation, breathing, acupuncture etc, but you feel that the symptoms such as tension, stress, anxiety, digestive problems, pain, weight problems, but also feelings of loneliness, powerlessness, helplessness keep returning and there’s something deeper that needs to be addressed,
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you notice certain patterns in your life that do not bring you happiness, and you want to change them, but you don’t know how,
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you believe you have the right to feel all emotions, not just the positive ones,
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you want to understand what triggers your negative emotions, what created your negative patterns, how to get to the bottom of it and how to work through it, if you choose to,
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you’ve noticed that certain negative things in your life keep returning, even though you try to remove them (e.g. people you can’t rely on, not trusting others, unfulfilling relationships),
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you have thoughts that stop you from doing what you want to, being who you want to be, living the life you want to live,
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you want to address what has happened to you and its impact on you, but you’re scared to talk about it,
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you understand that I don't have a magic wand that can make your difficulties disappear overnight. Healing is a process that takes time, and its pace depends on your readiness to explore certain issues.